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 Jun 8 2007, 05:29 PM
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So one of my good friends just found out her Mom has cancer. This is the closest that anyone I know has had it, and I was wondering if anyone knows the best thing to say/do (because, "I'm so sorry" can only go so far.)
This is all new to me, so I was just seeing if anyone had any good advice. --------------------  |
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Jun 8 2007, 05:37 PM
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 GORILLA FLUFFER  Group: Agents Posts: 7,711 Joined: 23-February 06 From: lubbock Member No.: 50 |
be strong, be confident, BE THERE FOR HER AND LISTEN. you have to be the rock of stability while her world is turned upside down. but be her friend. talk to her on the issues, but don't let her change the way she lives her life because of it. act normal basically. because if you let her turn it into a huge drastic experience in her mind, it will just cause her to freak out more.
(btw, my girlfriend lauren just got through with her cancer. found it in december, 3 surgerys later, and the doctor says she is cancer free now.) --------------------  QUOTE (Jessica @ May 7 2007, 01:15 PM)  but yeehaw dammit. YEEHAW QUOTE (Dogmeat @ Jun 26 2008, 07:51 PM) ok once upon a time I jacked myself off retarded. Licking anuses, one kindergarten class at a time!! |
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Jun 8 2007, 05:48 PM
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 Group: Moderators Posts: 885 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Lubbock, Texas Member No.: 12 |
ya just be there for them and keep them occupied, nothings worse than an idle mind. My moms going through it and its nice to just hang out with friends that i know will be there when i need them
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Jun 8 2007, 05:52 PM
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those things sound good.
Is there anything to do in the immediate though, or should i let her mull it over for a day or so? -------------------- |
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Jun 8 2007, 08:37 PM
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GORILLA FLUFFER Group: Agents Posts: 7,711 Joined: 23-February 06 From: lubbock Member No.: 50 |
she's going to mull over it no matter what. don't wait, but don't act like an ass and pretend it's not a big deal. just make sure she knows you're trying to distract her. if she knows you're trying to help rather than getting the impression you "don't care" she'll understand and appreciate it, and it's less likely she'll take something out of context. because it could be a very touchy subject.
-------------------- QUOTE (Jessica @ May 7 2007, 01:15 PM) but yeehaw dammit. YEEHAW QUOTE (Dogmeat @ Jun 26 2008, 07:51 PM) ok once upon a time I jacked myself off retarded. Licking anuses, one kindergarten class at a time!! |
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Jun 9 2007, 06:23 AM
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Fool Group: Members Posts: 2,127 Joined: 23-February 06 From: LBB Member No.: 56 |
JYFIHP to help her forget about it?
Seriously though, when people come to me for advice/similar stuff, I just answer/comment/console in a non-bullshit way. It tends to work out for the best. Subtlety isn't one of my strong suits, I guess. -------------------- Spam? Isn't that something poor people eat?
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Jun 9 2007, 01:01 PM
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I was raised on the dairy, BITCH! Group: Members Posts: 3,080 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Cedar Park Member No.: 49 |
QUOTE (James @ Jun 9 2007, 07:23 AM) JYFIHP to help her forget about it? I was waiting for this -------------------- "Ah, y'know it's funny, these people they go to sleep, they think everything's fine, everything's good. They wake up the next day and they're on fire."
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Jun 9 2007, 01:33 PM
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 Oh baby bring me down Group: Agents Posts: 4,115 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Way out yonder Member No.: 68 |
Take her someplace to get away from the situation for a bit.
-------------------- Southern Rock, beer and bears!
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Jun 9 2007, 03:34 PM
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 Group: Moderators Posts: 2,558 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Seoul, South Korea Member No.: 28 |
QUOTE (chook @ Jun 9 2007, 02:33 PM) Take her someplace to get away from the situation for a bit. give her a snickers --------------------  |
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Jun 9 2007, 03:54 PM
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CHEE CHEE Group: Members Posts: 5,026 Joined: 23-February 06 From: trapped in the hoezone layer Member No.: 39 |
So shes acting like her moms dead already?
Seriously. -------------------- Little monkeys making money
Naked monkey looking funny Mighty males are strong and free Female monkey, not so lucky Rocking monkeys, funky monkeys Monkeys sticking other monkeys Monkeys wrong or monkeys right Mostly flexing monkey might |
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Jun 9 2007, 04:55 PM
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 Fantastic! Group: Members Posts: 219 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Portales, NM Member No.: 51 |
QUOTE (jonathan83 @ Jun 9 2007, 04:34 PM) give her a snickers Shouldn't that be a Twix? --------------------  |
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Jun 9 2007, 05:44 PM
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I was raised on the dairy, BITCH! Group: Members Posts: 3,080 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Cedar Park Member No.: 49 |
QUOTE (Testm0nkey @ Jun 9 2007, 04:54 PM) So shes acting like her moms dead already? Seriously. Yeah. That's what gets me. People react weird with cases like cancer. Sure it's generally fatal but there are a lot of cancer survivors. The best thing is to be positive and do everything you can to help that person (with cancer) stay positive and healthy. -------------------- "Ah, y'know it's funny, these people they go to sleep, they think everything's fine, everything's good. They wake up the next day and they're on fire."
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Jun 9 2007, 05:51 PM
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 Group: Moderators Posts: 1,551 Joined: 19-April 06 From: Lubbock Member No.: 162 |
QUOTE (pysex @ Jun 9 2007, 06:44 PM) Yeah. That's what gets me. People react weird with cases like cancer. Sure it's generally fatal but there are a lot of cancer survivors. The best thing is to be positive and do everything you can to help that person (with cancer) stay positive and healthy. actually with all of the new medicines and advancements, cancer is a fairly survivable disease. Alot of people I know (many my age, actually) have had cancer and survived. Just stay positive. Cancer is not a death sentence these days. It's a very serious, tough, thing to deal with and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but its curable at least. -------------------- Je suis toute du merde.
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Jun 9 2007, 05:54 PM
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 Group: Agents Posts: 4,026 Joined: 23-February 06 From: lu-bok Member No.: 41 |
get her a gift card to wig shop
-------------------- 32-bit whore
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Jun 9 2007, 06:25 PM
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I was raised on the dairy, BITCH! Group: Members Posts: 3,080 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Cedar Park Member No.: 49 |
QUOTE (griseyeux @ Jun 9 2007, 06:51 PM) actually with all of the new medicines and advancements, cancer is a fairly survivable disease. Alot of people I know (many my age, actually) have had cancer and survived. Just stay positive. Cancer is not a death sentence these days. It's a very serious, tough, thing to deal with and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but its curable at least. CANCER TREATMENT CENTERS OF AMERICA! -------------------- "Ah, y'know it's funny, these people they go to sleep, they think everything's fine, everything's good. They wake up the next day and they're on fire."
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