Coach, 40, Weds 16-Year-Old Student, in North Carolina Options

[JRockTTU]

Oh its "love".... fuck that. I'd bash the guys head in if he touched my daughter, sue the school, and move her ass away. This is coming from the notion that the child is raised to respect her parents (like i was). Especially at 16 i don't care what the feeling the immature kid is having, im going to protect them from a 40 yr old child molestor. If it was a 22 yr old coach who just started at the school it might be a little bit different, but most likely no... be a parent. If the kid hates you for a couple years because you stopped them from making a huge mistake then so be it.

And yes, im sure its a huge mistake. No matter if they lived to be happy people with bunnies and fru frus its still a huge mistake that should be stopped. No person at that age can know what love is or isn't

The parents look like they could be around 40, that would put them at 24 when they had the girl. It's like your best friend fucking and marrying your daughter while she's still in high school. How many people here would let one of their buddies do that?

[FORSAKENR320]

No person at that age can know what love is or isn't

i did. maybe you're that emptionally immature, but i wasn't.

[moebary]

i did. maybe you're that emptionally immature, but i wasn't.

or you're just naive

[Psykopath]

i did. maybe you're that emptionally immature, but i wasn't.

You knew what love is at 16 (or younger)?



...alright.

[GOB]

age 16: love = boobies
age 18: love = boobies
age 21: love = boobies

[James]

Speaking of immature

[Seeker]

pics?

[Spectatrix]

i was 18. my brother was 17. and it doesn't matter on the age in this situation. my parents did both situations. they did exactly what all of you want them to do. and they did what these parents did. niether situation helped matters by their interferance. love does not age discriminate. do any of you people know for a fact that they don't love each other and that this is a wrong decision? NO. all of you are just speculating on the situation. what if they DO live happily? is it right for the parents to deny her that happiness just because they "don't think it will last"? NO. PARENTS SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO INTERFER WITH MATTERS CONCERNING LOVE. THEY KNOW NOHING OF THEIR FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER.
age does not bring wisdom, people. your parents are flawed, they make mistakes.

I agree. This guy may be simply a pedophile or he may actually love this girl. I think it's kind of dumb that she's getting married at 16, but I'd think that even if the husband were another 16-year-old. Love is one of those things where your lessons pretty much HAVE to be learned the hard way. I learned a hell of a lot more about love by making stupid mistakes at 15, 16, 17 than I have in the years since. My parents often disagreed my decisions and they let me know when they thought I was making a mistake, but they never forbid me from doing things that would result in me banging up my heart -- because I could always get back up and dust myself off and I'm a better, wiser person as a result. If they'd ever tried to outright forbid some relationship of mine, it would've lasted longer and been more destructive than if they'd just sat back and watched like they did.

This particular story hits a little close to home for me because I was in a year-long relationship when I was 18 and he was 30. Granted, I was an adult and the age difference wasn't nearly as much as in this story, but we certainly got our fair share of offhanded remarks about our ages. It wasn't the best relationship I've had, but it was still a happy and healthy one and we're friends to this day.

[JRockTTU]

i did. maybe you're that emptionally immature, but i wasn't.

How did true love work out for you?

[FORSAKENR320]

How did true love work out for you?

true love implies the other person loves you back. you're trying to force me into a harder definition of love that i never claimed to have accomplished. if it were true love, i still would have been with the person, and thats the word play you are trying to trick me into.

what i claimed is that i knew what love was. and i did because i experienced it. i awas one of those few lucky people to have loved the girl i lost my virginity too. candice and i have had a 12 year relationship that has been a mixture of best friend, lover, and intimacy. candice was about as close as i think one could get to being a soul mate without actually being one. we loved each other, and i have no doubt that if i had done things a little differently, it would be me and her getting married in 2 weeks instead of her and her new guy. she and i are still best friends and closer than most anyone i know. and i am proud to be able to attend her wedding to see her be happy.

[Testm0nkey]

christine - was he kind of nerdy? did he oogle your boobs a little too much? there is a reason why a 30year old man will date an 18 year old and it is unfortunately not because he saw you as an equal. plenty of people think they reached their height of maturity and intelligence at 18 but history is still trying to find one that actually did. going around thinking the opposite actually attracts the creepies because it makes you an easy target

[FORSAKENR320]

christine - was he kind of nerdy? did he oogle your boobs a little too much? there is a reason why a 30year old man will date an 18 year old and it is unfortunately not because he saw you as an equal. plenty of people think they reached their height of maturity and intelligence at 18 but history is still trying to find one that actually did. going around thinking the opposite actually attracts the creepies because it makes you an easy target

tramp stamps are an easy target. but yes, i agree that this guy was a creepy bastard. (he looks alot like charlie.) i also agree that she's prolly making a huge mistake. but like i was trying to explain earlier. it's a mistake she's going to have to learn on her own. her parents can't make love related decisions for her.



btw, does anyone think the track couch looks ALOT like the blonde guy wearing the "100% alive" shirt in this video? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-TyJ71K__s

[Testm0nkey]

in this case i dont believe the parents should allow her to make the mistake herself and learn from it.

if it was a bad boyfriend who was a college student thats one thing but her 40something year old coach if something totally else. she was 14 when it sounds like this started. if i was her parent i wouldnt have let it get passed that.

[Spectatrix]

christine - was he kind of nerdy? did he oogle your boobs a little too much? there is a reason why a 30year old man will date an 18 year old and it is unfortunately not because he saw you as an equal. plenty of people think they reached their height of maturity and intelligence at 18 but history is still trying to find one that actually did. going around thinking the opposite actually attracts the creepies because it makes you an easy target

He was very nerdy, but virtually everyone I've dated has been nerdy/geeky. No, he didn't ogle my boobs "a little too much". In fact, our relationship wasn't particularly sexual. Yes, we were intimate, but pretty infrequently and neither of us were pushing for more. I don't claim to have reached the height of maturity and intelligence at 18 -- that would be an insult to me now-- but I was (and still am) very mature and intelligent for my age. He was fairly intelligent, but a bit immature for his age, so it worked out well. My/his/our friends were all aware of the relationship and, while initially surprised, eventually thought that we made a pretty decent couple. Just because someone's older doesn't necessarily mean they're some perverted creep.

[Seeker]