What should I say... Options

[Junsui]

So shes acting like her moms dead already?

Seriously.

I don't see where it says she's acting like her mom's dead already. Maybe I missed it somewhere.

[Testm0nkey]

if hes sweating over simply what to say and looking for ways to help her. specifically looking for ways to help out immediately thats what it seems like.

get off my gooch jascour!

[James]

Why can't it be Courjas??

[Junsui]

if hes sweating over simply what to say and looking for ways to help her. specifically looking for ways to help out immediately thats what it seems like.

get off my gooch jascour!

Ahhh ok.

I remember when my mom had cancer it was pretty tough. Her first doctor started crying and told her she would die in 3 weeks. My mom got a second opinion and she's still alive today almost 15 years later!

[pebkac]

Ahhh ok.

I remember when my mom had cancer it was pretty tough. Her first doctor started crying and told her she would die in 3 weeks. My mom got a second opinion and she's still alive today almost 15 years later!

That's one bit of advice that would be good to follow. Before you do anything major after a major diagnosis like cancer, it's generally best to seek a second opinion. Otherwise, you could end up like the lady who had her breasts removed because the doctors mixed up her lab results (although I feel worse for the lady who probably thought she didn't have cancer when she did).

[Mommy]

A super close friend of mine had her mom pass away last mother's day of cancer. Her mom fought cancer for 3 years even though she was originally only given 3 months to live. Her mom is by far the strongest person I have ever met. She fought hard to stay alive for her 4 kids. I didnt know what to tell Sarah when her mom passed away. I mean, Sarah dropped out of high school when she was 15 to take care of her mom and work to support her family. I spoke from my heart. I told her that her mom was such a wonderful person and that I was glad I got to know her. I told Sarah that I know her mom was super proud of her for everything she did for her... bathed her, changed her diapers (towards the end the cancer spread to her brain and they couldnt afford to keep her in the hospital), raised the 3 little ones (one of the kids was 2 when she was diagnosed), worked, paid some of the bills.... I just spoke from the heart. While her mom was going through it, I just made sure to always talk to her. A lot of people stopped talking to her because they were afraid and didnt know what to tell her when they talked to her. Dont do this to your friend. Sarah would always tell me how much she missed everybody and couldnt believe that everyone pretty much stopped being her friend. It was super sad. Just tell her you are there for her, support her, take her places to get away every once in a while, maybe send her mom some flowers, and hope for the best.

[blaarg]

Thanks guys for the tips.
Took her out yesterday just so she could get away from being in her room all the time, and it seemed that she was getting back to normal.

And they are looking at a 2nd opinion to verify, so we'll see what happens.

[pysex]

Thanks guys for the tips.
Took her out yesterday just so she could get away from being in her room all the time, and it seemed that she was getting back to normal.

And they are looking at a 2nd opinion to verify, so we'll see what happens.

I recommend giving them any information about CTCA (Cancer Treatment Centers of America). They've helped so many people defeat cancer and the emotional and mental problems it can cause.

[kendra]

You don't always have to know the right things to say to help someone get through the illness of a family member or friend. It could turn out that this cancer is very treatable or it might be real fight. In either case your friend will be so glad to have someone that just listens, and admits to not knowing the answers. I would never undermine the triumph of someone defeating a serious illness, but I know from experience that those stories about so and so's mother having the same thing get old because you start to hear so many of them, and you just want to be selfish and believe that nobody else has ever felt the same fear and anger that you feel right now. Let her vent, cry, & whine, give her a little bit of freedom to be a bitch. I'm sure you would do all these things for her anyway, and that's the kind of friend that really helps.