Family of shooting victim files suit against Hueneme School District Options

[Psykopath]

whatever. you all make it sound a lot worse than it was.

so, if your son goes down on a girl in front of people at a party, it's not "as bad as that sounds." ?

[Mommy]

so, if your son goes down on a girl in front of people at a party, it's not "as bad as that sounds." ?

The guy was my boyfriend of over a year but yeah mistakes happen...

My point was I never went and fucked a ton of guys to feel validated as a person. I never did drugs. I never woke up the next morning next to a person I didn't know and not remembering what I did. I made the mistake of thinking I was in love and allowing that person to dictate me and humiliate me. I did not want to do what I did that night, straight up. I was stone sober and didn't have a drop of alcohol in my system. He just kept begging me. Anyone who truly knows me knows that I would jump through fire to do something for people I care for which, unfortunately, included doing just about whatever former boyfriends asked of me. I thought that's what love was...doing whatever to make the other person happy. He also was the guy I lost my virginity to. Not too many of you understand what it's like to date an asshole who uses you and wants to make himself feel like a better person by showing off what he has. You all are guys. In fact, Brandon seems like the kind of guy to beg his girlfriend to do things she will most certainly later regret. Believe me, that plus being raped (again, sober...and this time there was nothing I could have done about it) by some other asshole a few months after I broke up with Austin made me a lot smarter of a girl. Yeah, I wasn't street smart because I was sheltered in my younger years. I didn't know how royally fucked up most college kids were. I had never even been to a party that had alcohol until I went away to school. Couple that with being 17 when I left for college and being a virgin, and you have a recipe for a lot of guys to come after you. When it boils down to it, though, I had a simple childhood, and I wouldn't have changed it for the world. I was allowed to be a kid. I didn't have to deal with adult issues like pregnancy and drinking problems. Believe me, I didn't know what love was for a very long time because of how I was treated during college, but you know what, I made it through that stage with the same big heart that I had before. This time, though, I know that the person I am married to won't take advantage of me. Probably every person on this site thinks that I jumped into this marriage because I was pregnant, and I don't care what any of you think. I have an amazing husband, and we are married because we have a strong love for each other. I can't tell you guys how amazing being a mother is. All I can hope is that my son won't make the same mistakes I did, but teaching him confidence should take care of that. I want my son to be able to be a kid though also just like I was. So in other words, you all can blow it out your ass.

[Psykopath]

The guy was my boyfriend of over a year but yeah mistakes happen...

My point was I never went and fucked a ton of guys to feel validated as a person. I never did drugs. I never woke up the next morning next to a person I didn't know and not remembering what I did. I made the mistake of thinking I was in love and allowing that person to dictate me and humiliate me. I did not want to do what I did that night, straight up. I was stone sober and didn't have a drop of alcohol in my system. He just kept begging me. Anyone who truly knows me knows that I would jump through fire to do something for people I care for which, unfortunately, included doing just about whatever former boyfriends asked of me. I thought that's what love was...doing whatever to make the other person happy. He also was the guy I lost my virginity to. Not too many of you understand what it's like to date an asshole who uses you and wants to make himself feel like a better person by showing off what he has. You all are guys. In fact, Brandon seems like the kind of guy to beg his girlfriend to do things she will most certainly later regret. Believe me, that plus being raped (again, sober...and this time there was nothing I could have done about it) by some other asshole a few months after I broke up with Austin made me a lot smarter of a girl. Yeah, I wasn't street smart because I was sheltered in my younger years. I didn't know how royally fucked up most college kids were. I had never even been to a party that had alcohol until I went away to school. Couple that with being 17 when I left for college and being a virgin, and you have a recipe for a lot of guys to come after you. When it boils down to it, though, I had a simple childhood, and I wouldn't have changed it for the world. I was allowed to be a kid. I didn't have to deal with adult issues like pregnancy and drinking problems. Believe me, I didn't know what love was for a very long time because of how I was treated during college, but you know what, I made it through that stage with the same big heart that I had before. This time, though, I know that the person I am married to won't take advantage of me. Probably every person on this site thinks that I jumped into this marriage because I was pregnant, and I don't care what any of you think. I have an amazing husband, and we are married because we have a strong love for each other. I can't tell you guys how amazing being a mother is. All I can hope is that my son won't make the same mistakes I did, but teaching him confidence should take care of that. I want my son to be able to be a kid though also just like I was. So in other words, you all can blow it out your ass.

You know why people are jumping on your case?
Because you're being a self-righteous, holier-than-thou, "little Miss Perfect" BITCH.


You aren't perfect. You weren't raised perfect. You aren't perfect now. You will never be "perfect."

Quit insulting every other person in existence for being different than you.

[FORSAKENR320]

well, i'll be honest.. i wasn't refering to that as my point of arguement... lol. i was refering more to your identity crisis everytime you got with someone new, how your beliefs always changed to suit the new guy...

[Mommy]

Well, I'll be "holier than thou" and just quit posting since I have better things to do than to argue with people that I am better than.

[Psykopath]

Well, I'll be "holier than thou" and just quit posting since I have better things to do than to argue with people that I am better than.

LOL
Can dish it out but can't take it, eh?

[Spectatrix]

Hrm, can I put in my two cents?

It's hard to tell how much I was "sheltered" growing up. I was grounded so much that I didn't really have a chance to go out much anyway. Was homeschooled since the end of 2nd grade, but I did have plentiful extracurricular activities (dance, piano, girl scouts, adopt a wetland stuff, etc.). But they did send me off to college at 15, so I guess I wasn't sheltered *too* terribly much.

I had one douchebag boyfriend at 15 who really tried to pressure me into sex, but I successfully refused. Eventually dumped his ass, though I was with him for far too long. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 and not only was it on my initiative (shocker, considering the guy was 30), I delayed it a couple of months so that I could be well established on BC. Even though older than me, he was a good guy and we're still friends.

I only once got drunk (again, at 18) and that was with just a couple of good friends that I trusted completely. I went to a couple of parties with alcohol in my years at Tech, but never partook -- found it more fun to watch OTHER people get drunk. I've never tried any drugs, not even weed, and I the only time I ever smoked a cigarette was for about half a second.

Now at 24, I have a great job, an amazing relationship, and I couldn't be happier.

What would I have changed about my upbringing? Mainly the indefinite uber-groundings. I was grounded from everything but eating, sleeping, and doing schoolwork. Not being allowed to read for fun KILLED my love of reading and it took a good several years of concerted effort to revive that. I still don't read nearly as often as I used to, but I'm finally getting there. I would've liked more exposure to other religions, though I found those pretty readily in college.

All in all, I think even if I'd been completely unsheltered, my nerdiness would have kept me out of trouble. I never really associated much with the "go out and party" types -- all that didn't interest me. Even in college, I spent many a holiday playing video games rather than going out and getting drunk like many of my peers.

When I have children, I plan to instill nerdy interests in them early. That should hold them in check in large part. Beyond that, I'd want my teenagers to keep me informed as to their plans, but not down to excruciating detail.

[James]

Whoa. Hold up. You were raped? By who? Has the dude been castrated yet?

Oh. Yall ran her off...

[Psykopath]

Whoa. Hold up. You were raped? By who? Has the dude been castrated yet?

Oh. Yall ran her off...

meh, she ran herself off.

[Dogmeat]

queers ... can't appease them, can't have blanket parties with them ... it's a paradox, see ...

[impala454]

So a public BJ huh? Pretty naughty I guess but not exactly a huge surprise at a drunk college party.

[woody]

And how many parents these days work? The kid could have been left at home alone in the morning, gotten dressed, and then taken the bus to school. It's very feasible.

James, my private high school had rules that guys couldn't wear makeup.

so i'm going to detour and go back on topic

Parents may work but if they're so numb that they don't know what their child is doing, that's again their fault

[impala454]

I don't think it's a matter of them being "numb" to what their kids are doing, so much as raising them in such a way that the kid knows right from wrong and has a reasonable sense of responsibility corresponding to their age.

[Spectatrix]

If there had already been threats of violence against the kid, then whomever knew (school, parents, are both) are culpable.

[chook]

I hope you end up with Jocks spex :-P