Family of shooting victim files suit against Hueneme School District Options

[Hartmann]

http://www.venturacountystar.com/news/2008...gainst-hueneme/
http://www.latimes.com/news/printedition/c...1&cset=true

This is the story of the cross-dressing boy that the district allowed to cross-dress, more than likely so they wouldn't get sued for discrimination. The boy is shot and killed and now the parents are suing the school district for not enforcing dress code.

The sad part is that they will more than likely win.

We've almost completely removed parental responsibility from the equation.

Another angle of this thing is the fact that the family is calling for "acceptance", not "tolerance". They believe the school should teach about accepting people. Wow. What a dream world. Everyone is not going to be accepted all of the time.

[Spectatrix]

Hrm, can I put in my two cents?

It's hard to tell how much I was "sheltered" growing up. I was grounded so much that I didn't really have a chance to go out much anyway. Was homeschooled since the end of 2nd grade, but I did have plentiful extracurricular activities (dance, piano, girl scouts, adopt a wetland stuff, etc.). But they did send me off to college at 15, so I guess I wasn't sheltered *too* terribly much.

I had one douchebag boyfriend at 15 who really tried to pressure me into sex, but I successfully refused. Eventually dumped his ass, though I was with him for far too long. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18 and not only was it on my initiative (shocker, considering the guy was 30), I delayed it a couple of months so that I could be well established on BC. Even though older than me, he was a good guy and we're still friends.

I only once got drunk (again, at 18) and that was with just a couple of good friends that I trusted completely. I went to a couple of parties with alcohol in my years at Tech, but never partook -- found it more fun to watch OTHER people get drunk. I've never tried any drugs, not even weed, and I the only time I ever smoked a cigarette was for about half a second.

Now at 24, I have a great job, an amazing relationship, and I couldn't be happier.

What would I have changed about my upbringing? Mainly the indefinite uber-groundings. I was grounded from everything but eating, sleeping, and doing schoolwork. Not being allowed to read for fun KILLED my love of reading and it took a good several years of concerted effort to revive that. I still don't read nearly as often as I used to, but I'm finally getting there. I would've liked more exposure to other religions, though I found those pretty readily in college.

All in all, I think even if I'd been completely unsheltered, my nerdiness would have kept me out of trouble. I never really associated much with the "go out and party" types -- all that didn't interest me. Even in college, I spent many a holiday playing video games rather than going out and getting drunk like many of my peers.

When I have children, I plan to instill nerdy interests in them early. That should hold them in check in large part. Beyond that, I'd want my teenagers to keep me informed as to their plans, but not down to excruciating detail.