 Meeting the Parents, what to get them |
| Meeting the Parents, what to get them |
 Jan 27 2009, 03:31 PM
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So I guess I'm meeting my bf's parents this week. I'm not really sure what to get them, if I should get them each something or just one gift. People say food is the best idea, but I feel like chocolates are rather generic no matter how specialized they are.
Oh we're going to dinner (actually every meal it seems like), should I offer to pay? I wasn't technically invited to their place. -------------------- I go to the maize and blue
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Jan 27 2009, 03:41 PM
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you're supposed to get them something??
-------------------- Don't sweat the petty, pet the sweaty.
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Jan 27 2009, 03:45 PM
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QUOTE (cmac @ Jan 27 2009, 04:41 PM)  you're supposed to get them something?? we can pretend that we're in an alternative universe where people do stuff like this. -------------------- I go to the maize and blue
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Jan 27 2009, 03:49 PM
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A package of Hebrew National hot dogs and some lettuce
And a bunch of Mum's --------------------   |
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Jan 27 2009, 03:50 PM
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Oh and don't kill the family dog and cook it for them! That's a huge turnoff
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Jan 27 2009, 04:22 PM
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 New son Donovan Charles Mummert born July 17, 2008 Group: Members Posts: 8,635 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Port Wentworth, GA Member No.: 15 |
QUOTE (Inferia @ Jan 27 2009, 04:31 PM) So I guess I'm meeting my bf's parents this week. I'm not really sure what to get them, if I should get them each something or just one gift. People say food is the best idea, but I feel like chocolates are rather generic no matter how specialized they are. Bring them a nice house plant. I know a lot of people give that when they first meet someone.
Oh we're going to dinner (actually every meal it seems like), should I offer to pay? I wasn't technically invited to their place. |
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Jan 27 2009, 04:26 PM
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Group: Admin Posts: 6,906 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Austin Member No.: 9 |
If you want to go the food route, I'd recommend giving them something you've made yourself, e.g. cookies or banana nut bread. As for paying for dinner, ask your boyfriend what his family might expect. The parents themselves will give you clues... if they grab the bill immediately and plunk down a credit card without batting an eye, don't sweat it. If you're going out to multiple meals, though, you might offer to cover the entirety of one of the less expensive ones (probably a lunch).
In my family, who pays largely depends on who's there. If it's my dad & step-mom, they're going to pay for the meal unless you absolutely insist otherwise. When I last went out with my mom & stepdad, though, I ended up paying for the entire meal (6 people) because I got tired of watching them whisper over the bill trying to decide what card/checking account to pay it with. -------------------- |
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Jan 27 2009, 05:04 PM
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I like plants, but I'm not sure if they're plant people. I don't really want to make them anything, I don't feel like it's very appropriate for my situation.
Yeah, offering to pay for a meal is a good idea since we'll be eating out multiple times (I just worry about the number of people that are going to be there). -------------------- I go to the maize and blue
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Jan 27 2009, 05:08 PM
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Red Wine is usually a good gift.
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Jan 27 2009, 05:11 PM
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New son Donovan Charles Mummert born July 17, 2008 Group: Members Posts: 8,635 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Port Wentworth, GA Member No.: 15 |
How long have you two been dating? Why don't get take a nice picture of you two and frame it. I would only do this idea, though, if you have been dating for longer than a year or if it's a very serious relationship.
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Jan 27 2009, 05:12 PM
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New son Donovan Charles Mummert born July 17, 2008 Group: Members Posts: 8,635 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Port Wentworth, GA Member No.: 15 |
One more idea: Things Remembered is a store they have at almost every mall, and they have a TON of great gift ideas, and they can engrave there. Might want to check it out.
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Jan 27 2009, 05:13 PM
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New son Donovan Charles Mummert born July 17, 2008 Group: Members Posts: 8,635 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Port Wentworth, GA Member No.: 15 |
QUOTE (Billy @ Jan 27 2009, 06:08 PM) Red Wine is usually a good gift. Only if you are positive that they drink. If my parents got a bottle of wine, they would be super offended.
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Jan 27 2009, 05:15 PM
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That was implied.
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Jan 27 2009, 05:17 PM
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New son Donovan Charles Mummert born July 17, 2008 Group: Members Posts: 8,635 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Port Wentworth, GA Member No.: 15 |
QUOTE (Billy @ Jan 27 2009, 06:15 PM) That was implied. I was just commenting. Get over yourself.
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Jan 27 2009, 05:21 PM
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Hmm, I need something a little less personal. They're "country folks" (not exactly, I'm not sure how to describe them), I'm not sure if wine from where I'm from is too uppity. I think they'd appreciate something a little bit more "down home".
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Jan 27 2009, 05:34 PM
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New son Donovan Charles Mummert born July 17, 2008 Group: Members Posts: 8,635 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Port Wentworth, GA Member No.: 15 |
How about a gourmet food basket from Hickory Farms....
Hershey also sells gift baskets... kinda a step up from a box of chocolates. Both are sold on their Web site Also, there is that Edible Arrangements. They have a site too. |
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Jan 27 2009, 05:47 PM
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when you first see them
look into their eyes give a face of joy and excitement ask them if they're excited that they're going to be grandparents if they're jaws drop, laugh it off and say "just kidding, i got it aborted last week" those are memories they will never forget -------------------- |
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Jan 27 2009, 06:04 PM
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hosue plant.
or homemade cookies/other desert. --------------------  |
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Jan 27 2009, 08:58 PM
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 Oh baby bring me down  Group: Agents Posts: 4,115 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Way out yonder Member No.: 68 |
QUOTE (Mommy @ Jan 27 2009, 06:13 PM) Only if you are positive that they drink. If my parents got a bottle of wine, they would be super offended. Their Catholic right? -------------------- Southern Rock, beer and bears!
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Jan 27 2009, 09:31 PM
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QUOTE (Inferia @ Jan 27 2009, 05:21 PM) Hmm, I need something a little less personal. They're "country folks" (not exactly, I'm not sure how to describe them), I'm not sure if wine from where I'm from is too uppity. I think they'd appreciate something a little bit more "down home". Cookies. -------------------- |
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Jan 28 2009, 12:39 AM
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Group: Moderators Posts: 2,558 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Seoul, South Korea Member No.: 28 |
QUOTE (jonathan83 @ Jan 27 2009, 07:04 PM) house plant. or homemade cookies/other desert. QUOTE (Spectatrix @ Jan 27 2009, 10:31 PM) Cookies. copycat. -------------------- |
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Jan 28 2009, 09:31 AM
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Group: Admin Posts: 6,906 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Austin Member No.: 9 |
QUOTE (Spectatrix @ Jan 27 2009, 04:26 PM) If you want to go the food route, I'd recommend giving them something you've made yourself, e.g. cookies or banana nut bread. QUOTE (jonathan83 @ Jan 27 2009, 06:04 PM) hosue plant. or homemade cookies/other desert. Nope, you're the copycat. I was just reiterating. 
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Jan 28 2009, 10:31 AM
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I got some chocolate from a local chocolate shop and a couple of dog treats.
Anything else I should know about meeting the rents? I kinda figured it's no different than meet anyone else, but it still feels awkward to be in a house full of people who all know each other. -------------------- I go to the maize and blue
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Jan 28 2009, 10:57 AM
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Group: Admin Posts: 6,906 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Austin Member No.: 9 |
Just relax and be yourself. Ask your bf what you should expect.
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Jan 28 2009, 11:33 AM
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What if they're on a diet?
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Jan 28 2009, 11:57 AM
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Probably a lot of questions on me being chinese, I'm not sure if I want to do that. I don't particularly want to be viewed as chinese, but more of as a person, if you know what I mean. I'm not sure if anyone on this board would have experiences with that.
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Jan 28 2009, 01:06 PM
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Group: Moderators Posts: 2,558 Joined: 22-February 06 From: Seoul, South Korea Member No.: 28 |
Gong Xi Fa Cai. Talk about being American if they ask about it, since you are. They might just be curious about or something. On that subject, do your parents know you're dating a non-Chinese guy?
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Jan 28 2009, 01:37 PM
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Thank, happy niu year (
) Yeah, they do, they've met him over christmas. I'm just worried that this meeting will be really weird, we're sorta the black sheep of the family.
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Jan 28 2009, 05:07 PM
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QUOTE (jonathan83 @ Jan 28 2009, 12:06 PM) Gong Xi Fa Cai. You forgot the Hong Bao Na Lai part afterwards. -------------------- Beers that I have had, updated July 5th, 2009: 1,548
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Jan 28 2009, 05:47 PM
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hah that dont say that part in korea.
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Jan 28 2009, 08:40 PM
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Oh baby bring me down Group: Agents Posts: 4,115 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Way out yonder Member No.: 68 |
The lunar new year means free food for me at my friends parents' place!
-------------------- Southern Rock, beer and bears!
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Jan 28 2009, 10:53 PM
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 DEATH TO ....something? Group: Members Posts: 5,618 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Parker, CO Member No.: 55 |
QUOTE (Inferia @ Jan 27 2009, 04:31 PM) So I guess I'm meeting my bf's parents this week. I'm not really sure what to get them, if I should get them each something or just one gift. People say food is the best idea, but I feel like chocolates are rather generic no matter how specialized they are. Oh we're going to dinner (actually every meal it seems like), should I offer to pay? I wasn't technically invited to their place. A George W. Bush bobblehead -------------------- I r Ur Gawd!
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Jan 29 2009, 06:42 PM
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 GORILLA FLUFFER Group: Agents Posts: 7,711 Joined: 23-February 06 From: lubbock Member No.: 50 |
QUOTE (Inferia @ Jan 28 2009, 11:57 AM) Probably a lot of questions on me being chinese, I'm not sure if I want to do that. I don't particularly want to be viewed as chinese, but more of as a person, if you know what I mean. I'm not sure if anyone on this board would have experiences with that. what? you mean that us "evil white men oppressors, who are the fault of everything in the world" don't understand what it feels like to be stereotyped on appearance? you're yellow. so what. get over yourself --------------------  QUOTE (Jessica @ May 7 2007, 01:15 PM) but yeehaw dammit. YEEHAW QUOTE (Dogmeat @ Jun 26 2008, 07:51 PM) ok once upon a time I jacked myself off retarded. Licking anuses, one kindergarten class at a time!! |
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Jan 29 2009, 07:16 PM
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QUOTE (jonathan83 @ Jan 28 2009, 06:47 PM) hah that dont say that part in korea. are you still in korea? How's the new year like there? Pretty festive? -------------------- I go to the maize and blue
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Jan 30 2009, 09:29 AM
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QUOTE (Inferia @ Jan 29 2009, 07:16 PM) are you still in korea? How's the new year like there? Pretty festive? i'm still here. it's not really festive persay...everyone just goes home and does their traditional stuff with their family. nothing in public really happens..no parades or anything. half the population of seoul leaves though, which is nice! -------------------- |
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Jan 30 2009, 11:30 PM
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Oh baby bring me down Group: Agents Posts: 4,115 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Way out yonder Member No.: 68 |
QUOTE (FORSAKENR320 @ Jan 29 2009, 06:42 PM) what? you mean that us "evil white men oppressors, who are the fault of everything in the world" don't understand what it feels like to be stereotyped on appearance? you're yellow. so what. get over yourself I agree, with you that everyone says that white people stereotype...blah blah blah.... Then again, I think she is dating an evil white Republican, hell bent on destroying mother earth and minoriteam. And I like Liberal Chicks, its better angry sex! -------------------- Southern Rock, beer and bears!
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Jan 31 2009, 03:06 AM
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GORILLA FLUFFER Group: Agents Posts: 7,711 Joined: 23-February 06 From: lubbock Member No.: 50 |
QUOTE (chook @ Jan 30 2009, 11:30 PM) I agree, with you that everyone says that white people stereotype...blah blah blah.... Then again, I think she is dating an evil white Republican, hell bent on destroying mother earth and minoriteam. And I like Liberal Chicks, its better angry sex! i was just a little annoyed that she gave the impression her people were the only ones stereotyped, and we "wouldn't understand what thats like" i mean... THE MAJORITY OF THE WORLDS POPULATION.... LOOK JUST LIKE HER!!! -------------------- QUOTE (Jessica @ May 7 2007, 01:15 PM) but yeehaw dammit. YEEHAW QUOTE (Dogmeat @ Jun 26 2008, 07:51 PM) ok once upon a time I jacked myself off retarded. Licking anuses, one kindergarten class at a time!! |
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Jan 31 2009, 12:50 PM
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Oh baby bring me down Group: Agents Posts: 4,115 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Way out yonder Member No.: 68 |
QUOTE (FORSAKENR320 @ Jan 31 2009, 04:06 AM) i was just a little annoyed that she gave the impression her people were the only ones stereotyped, and we "wouldn't understand what thats like" i mean... THE MAJORITY OF THE WORLDS POPULATION.... LOOK JUST LIKE HER!!! Plurality, not majority. But you are right about it. OMG noone knows how it is to be <fill in the blank> -------------------- Southern Rock, beer and bears!
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Feb 5 2009, 10:00 PM
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DEATH TO ....something? Group: Members Posts: 5,618 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Parker, CO Member No.: 55 |
QUOTE (chook @ Jan 30 2009, 11:30 PM) I agree, with you that everyone says that white people stereotype...blah blah blah.... Then again, I think she is dating an evil white Republican, hell bent on destroying mother earth and minoriteam. And I like Liberal Chicks, its better angry sex! My goal in life is to assfuck women into republicans. -------------------- I r Ur Gawd!
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Feb 10 2009, 09:03 PM
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Oh baby bring me down Group: Agents Posts: 4,115 Joined: 23-February 06 From: Way out yonder Member No.: 68 |
QUOTE (Dogmeat @ Feb 5 2009, 11:00 PM) My goal in life is to assfuck women into republicans. I think a new plan is needed, more people voted democrat in the last election. -------------------- Southern Rock, beer and bears!
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